What really creates emotional intimacy

This is a poem on what really creates emotional intimacy. Read it with an open heart. Let its realness into your realness. Let it in, all the way.

Real

Real

What is it to be

Real?

 

What is it to be

Raw

 

to be unvarnished

unmasked

unpretentious

 

to be naked face

naked body

naked soul

Naked man rests sideon in lake, head and shoulders revealed - showing the real self.Photo by Sarah Diniz Outeiro on Unsplash


to reveal

what you think

what you feel

what you struggle with

what you find easy

 

to reveal

your likes and dislikes

your secrets

your fantasies

your shadows

 

When you feel-sense

to reveal them

 

in that moment

to flow

 

with that person

to uncover

 

with a stranger

with a lover


~

 

Are a stranger and a lover

so different?

aren't they the same

in a fundamental sense?

 

Is their mask so different

from my mask

from my many masks

 

whether it's the same mask

or the opposite mask

similar conditioning

or an opposite childhood

 

when I show you inside

do you open or close

are you attracted

or repelled

or both

 

Me too

Oh, me too

 

~


I notice frozen faces

so many people with

frozen faces

stiff faces

closed faces

holding their faces rigid

keeping their innards 'safe'

Black rigid statue of a person gazing downward, no features (Winchester Cathedral, UK).Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash


They can't seem to smile anymore

fully

They can't seem to cry anymore

weeping

They can't seem to be angry

uninhibitedly

They can't seem to be fearful

and shiver

 

They are all those things

and they hold them all back

split them off

squash them down

project them out

 

They don't even know who they are

anymore

they don't even know

they are so confused

so in pain

so numb

 

I am them too

I notice I smile when I am hurt

I notice I laugh when I want to cry

I get calm when I am angry

I get blank when I am fearful

 

I notice

I share it with others

it's a step toward

unfreezing my face

taking off my masks

freeing up my body

 

It's a step toward dancing

in the rain

or sobbing

in the rain

whichever takes me

Woman in gumboots splashing in a puddle in the rain, starting to dance.Photo by Vidar Nordli-Mathisen on Unsplash


It's a step toward living

Living life alive!

a step toward intimacy

in-to-me-see

and show me you too

 

I want to see you!

I want you to see me

 

~

It's a step toward turning

all the lights on

in an abandoned house

which had all the lights off

 

saying, "Look at me

a simple human

an everyday person

actually being

a simple human

an everyday person

 

actually letting myself live

letting life in

letting love in and out

letting you in

letting myself out

~


No more masks

they never truly kept me safe

they were halfway-to-dead

and all I care about now

 

is being wide open

to Life

Butterfly perches on a man's dirty hand.Photo by Elijah O'Donnell on Unsplash


letting it sing me

letting it dance me in the rain

weep me in the rain

 

letting Life in."


~Sair Gryphon